“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!”
~C. JoyBell C.
Okay quick question, who comes to your mind first thing in the morning? Is it your spouse, partner or child?
Or could it be that person(s) that you are still angry with or the one that is upset with you? Or is it someone or something from your childhood that you just can’t let go of?
All of these are important questions when it comes to your health, simplifying your life and your emotional well-being.
We all have “those people” in our heads that we keep having conversations with or replaying the event that we felt was unfair. But when you keep replaying the drama and conversations it’s like watching the fuel gauge on your car moving steadily toward empty.
In the morning you start out on a full tank of energy and when the mind drama starts you feel your fuel gauge drop more and more until by lunchtime you feel like you have no energy left to give.
Recognize any of this? Someone or something is draining all of the energy right out of you every day and you don’t know how to stop it. Or do you?
I have fallen victim to this little tragedy time and time again. But this week I decided to flip the switch on a thought pattern that was dragging me down and take that big leap. That’s right, it’s the “F” word, that word that gets thrown around a lot and treated like a “red headed step child.” (remember I’m from the South, we say these things.) Ready?
I know you have heard this so much it makes you want to puke and I don’t blame you. I felt the same way but this week when I said it out loud (in my head) to the person in question and knew that I forgave them not for what they did (that still bites) but released them from my mind, heart and soul, it felt freeing.
Not only did I feel more free from this one little (okay really big) thing but my energy level shot up, my mood lifted and my mind was much clearer.
“Hey this “F” word is a pretty good drug!”
Did I mention that forgiveness also lowers your cortisol levels ? Less stress = less cortisol. And keeping your adrenals and cortisol levels balanced is one of the keys to your overall good health.
Great now you feel better from the inside out which is very awesome but the work does have to continue especially if you have been dragging this person/situation around for a long time.
So try this:
- When the situation/person comes to mind, just repeat your forgiveness statement and move on.
- Remember, you are not forgiving the wrong that you felt was done to you but you are allowing this person/situation to move on from your life.
- It is not necessary to say it to them nor do you ever have to allow this person in your life again.
This is all for you and only you and it is a sweet release!
So are you ready to use the “F” word a little more to reduce your stress, simplify your thoughts and improve your health?
I hope you will and would love to hear from you in the comment section if you think you can add a little more forgiveness in your life.
Share the love of this post with someone else in your life who might need to open up and add a little forgiveness to their lives too.