“You will always belong anywhere you show up as yourself and talk about yourself and your work in a real way.”
― Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
I don’t know about all of you but 2018 can’t get here fast enough! 2017 has been an emotional roller coaster with the political front, the news front, personal front and everything in between. Whew!
I want to open your mind to a different way of shaping your life as you move into 2018. Astrologically speaking, according to Jennifer Racioppi, this year will be about moving in the direction of your soul as Saturn animates your life lessons. Sounds a little deep but now is the time that the world needs the real you to step forward.
For me, this brings up a lot of questions about choices versus obligations and living more authentically as my true self.
Let me clarify about choices versus obligations, from my last post about my adult kids, where they made a conscious choice to take an emotional timeout for the holidays, obligation did not come into play which was a wonderful thing. They changed what would be an obligation to a choice.
Now before you start ticking off your “obligations,” and yes we all have some that we have to do, ask yourself could some of them change into “choices?” For 2018, ask yourself first, “Could this obligation be a choice instead?” and if the answer is yes, then you get to decide whether it will fit into your new life.
Now, let’s look at living and showing up as authentically as you possibly can in 2018. We all wear “masks” in our lives, the faces we show certain people or use in specific situations. What if we slowly started revealing our true selves in all situations, basing our “choices” on what our authentic selves would want to do instead of how it would fit the “mask.”
“You are only free when you realize you belong no place—you belong every place—no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.”-Maya Angelou
When you start to live authentically, you will feel that you belong no place which can be very lonely at first. Then slowly and trust me this is a s-l-o-w process which may not even be completed in quite a few years, you will realize that yes the price is high, people won’t like the new you but in the end the reward is great! Living a truly authentic life, freeing the chains that may have bound you could not be a better way to start 2018.
To start this journey, ask yourself, what roadblocks stand in my way for me to make more choices instead of obligations and for me to live my life as authentically as possible? Write them down and be as honest as you can.
Then with the arrival of the Full Moon on January 1st, 2018, it is the perfect time to let go (burn or tear up your list) of what is standing in your way, what you don’t need in your life anymore and what your true intentions are for this beautiful New Year.
I wish you the best for 2018 and together we will slay some demons and create a space for all of us to live our lives authentically. Please share with someone in your life that needs to reshape their 2018.
Peace and love